Over-sharing

Being someone who believes in talking about your feelings and the fact that sometimes it feels better to let things out than to keep them bottled up inside, I still sometimes feel that I end up sharing more than I should have.

The concept of over-sharing is very very real and I don't know about you but it sure does affect me quite a lot. I find it difficult to strike out a balance between telling someone what I want to tell but also to stop when it's time to. I don't know if it's because of the fact that I try to avoid talking about something for so long and when I do decide to open up about it, I end up sharing more than I intended to.

I mean, at some level I think it is not about how much stuff did I overshare but more about the person I did it with. Maybe it's someone I do think of as a good friend but at not that level... simply put, they don't need to know every single detail about something that happened with me.

And I wonder why is that? Maybe it's something related to how I don't want a particular person to look or think about me in a certain way after knowing what they now know because I didn't shut up at the right time? But isn't that understanding the other person better? Maybe it's the fact that the other person doesn't reciprocate, they don't tell me everything in detail then why should I? But isn't everyone different and have different ways of coping with things? It's like blaming someone as to why they chose strawberry ice-cream when I got chocolate??? I mean what is the real reason?!??

So, I honestly don't know why I sometimes feel a bit guilty about over-sharing my stuff. I think it could because of all the above-mentioned factors orrrrr the fact that they didn't respond in a way that I wanted them to? Like, sometimes you tell someone something in a hope that they will suggest you something along the lines of what you were already thinking and they either say something totally opposite or it is such an underwhelming response that you think that you shouldn't have told them anything at the first place.

I do think I have gotten better at deciding who to approach for what and how much to disclose, knowing how that specific friend would respond. And honestly, I'd rather still over-share than not to share anything at all. I think it's important to remember that talking about things always helps, just try to be as authentic as you can and avoid over-sharing!!!! And even if you do end up over-sharing, it's okay. Maybe you just needed to vent out some feelings and you did. Also, our friends are not our therapists (I treat time like one anyway).

Ok. Bye.